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Contemporary Masculine Spirituality & The Problem of Patriarchy

2009-06-14T20:01:48Z

"Numen, Old Men" looks like an interesting book by Joseph Gelfer and gets to some of the essentialism around Deida previously discussed, although noting that this is hardly unique to Deida. Interesting stuff for those with spine and stomach, as excerpted at http://www.realitysandwich.com/masculine_spiritualities_and_problem_patriarchy

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A Deida-compatible course: "Wild Attraction: The Energetic Facts of Life" Course Offered by the Sente Center

2009-05-26T18:01:02Z

I have found this work to be incredibly compatible with Deida's work:

"Wild Attraction: The Energetic Facts of Life"

Patty Richards' Live Teleconference Mini-course "Introducing Wild Attraction"

Next Class: starts June 16, 2009 (4 Tuesdays) 5:30-7:30pm (pst)
Price: $79
**This class is available as an in-person class to those living in the Ashland area**

Sign up today for this one-of-a-kind 4 session seminar in our online store at:
http://www.sentecenter.com

For sample chapters of "Wild Attraction: The Energetic Facts of Life" go here: http://www.sentecenter.com/images/pdf/wildAttraction.pdf

Enjoy weekly 2-hour teleconferenced sessions...all you need is a phone!

• Become a better candidate for Extraordinary Relationship
• Learn the basics of your energy system and its capacity to enhance or inhabit communication in relationship
• Discover practical ways to turn the force of attraction 'on' in your life and end patterns of loneliness
• Understand how the signals you send in energy either entice you to choose unsuitable partners or help you attract healthy mates
• Keep passion and charge alive in your marriage or long term relationship
• Experience intriguing lectures, special features, and training exercises

This is a stand-alone course, as well as fulfills the prerequisite required to attend "Unleashing Wild Attraction"--an ongoing relationship study group with Paul Richards.

Please contact the Senté Center for more details: http://www.sentecenter.com or 541-482-7182

Thank you!
Julia

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What is your vision of love?

2009-04-28T18:04:07Z

I have this vision of true love as a love that pierces right through a person. It sends out a wave from deep within and goes right to and then through the other person. It eminates from one soul and goes through the other person's personality, their layers right to their soul.
It isn't a possesion, like it doesn't belong to one person. It starts in the "soul" realm, or another place entirely and moves through me toward certain people, places, concepts, etc.. It isn't mine to keep. I let it move through me, express through me. And in that way it is me.

It also is dangerous and radical because it doesn't even know about personality and this-worldly things. It isn't marriage. It will bring up all that is not love around it. It is more than this life, it transcends death and time and space. And it is the most powerful force on this earth. It powers evolution. It is what everything is ultimately made of. It is all there is.
What is your vision of Love?

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One Last David Deida Workshop on West Coast!

2008-08-01T18:22:18Z

September 12-14 in LA -- all the info at www.DeidaEvents.com

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Deida groups/workshops in Germany

2008-07-31T12:06:47Z

Since I am going back to Germany pretty soon, I would like to continue being in the "Deida" connection there.

Anyone knows of any workshops or Deida based women's circles/gatherings/community in Germany???

I would love to find out and continue my work there - apart from reading books.

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David Deida Returning to LA in September 2008

2008-07-10T18:27:57Z

David has agreed to do one additional Live Weekend Intensive this year - in Los Angeles -- in Marina Del Rey on the weekend of Sept 12-14.

To learn more - check in at www.DeidaEvents.com or email me directly at DeidaEvents@gmail.com

Hope to see you there!

Adam
Deida Events

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Way of the Superior Woman?

2008-06-15T19:25:38Z

Deida does a great job exploring what it is to be a positive man based on the divine masculine, but only indirectly touches on the feminine counterpart of that, a kind of two dimensional tantra / dakini archetype. What can you say about the Superior Woman? Is it too politically incorrect a subject? Or, are there no women out there who know in a way that it's possible to constructively talk about it? (I doubt that, there are certainly at least a few superior women in the world). What can you say about the Superior woman? What characteristics does she have, and what characteristics does she forgo?

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Deida in San Francisco/April and Seattle/May

2008-05-28T22:16:42Z

Hey Folks,

Looks like the Double D will be coming to the West Coast this year for two live weekend workshops:

SF - April 25-27, 2008

Seattle - May 23-25, 2008

More details can be found at www.DeidaEvents.com.

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Where to find Info on Deida events?

2008-05-05T18:37:07Z

It seems like David doesn't want to be found again... None of the web sites that used to list his events and info seem to be active. Anyone know what's going on?

Tried bluetruth.org, deidacentral.com (one of his approved guys, not him), deida.info (offline)...no luck

I heard there's a workshop in May somewhere and he usually teaches at Omega and Colorado in August.

Any ideas?

Kevin

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Extra bedroom near Tiberon to accommodate Deida SF workshop attendee?

2008-04-21T18:00:44Z

Hi there,

I'm attending the Deida workshop this weekend in Tiberon and am seeking a nearby bed (Mill Valley) for Friday and Saturday night. :) Anyone?

Amy

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Any men's groups in Austin, TX?

2008-03-07T23:05:01Z

Just finished a workshop with David and I am feeling charged. Would like to keep the momentum going. I know there were other Austinites in the workshop. Anyone have info of any facilitated groups here?

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New Orleans David Deida men's group

2008-02-28T15:21:51Z

I just started a David Deida men's group in New Orleans and I'm looking for members. If anyone is interested you can join here: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Deida-NewOrleans.

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SF Deida Teaching Assistant's "Conscious Love: Deep, Boundless and Sexy"

2008-02-13T21:13:33Z

Sabrina Chaw and Kaidan Erwin lead a day-long gathering of conscious, intentional loving practice for couples.

During this sacred gathering, you will:

* Feel your unique gifts in YOUR particular form as a Masculine or Feminine being, in relationship;
* Learn how to offer your deepest self in love to your partner, even in the midst of resistance or habitual relationship patterns;
* Uncover ways of relating that increases sexual attraction, openness, energy and depth, moment to moment, with your partner;
* Realize the true meaning of Love - beyond any intellectual or preconceived idea, THROUGH your body, in actual application.

Sunday, March 2, 2008
10am - 5pm
San Francisco (location to be announced)
$300 per couple (singles are welcome if you bring a partner to practice with for the day)
Call Sabrina at 415.863.8329 or email: Joyling@aol.com
(Gender-balance is necessary, so no drop-ins will be allowed)

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Deida Material

2008-01-29T02:03:52Z

I recently saw some of Deida's material on a ning social network site and I am looking for more information.

Has anyone had any experience attending workshops or intensives here?

Janice

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Instant Enlightenment

2008-01-28T13:26:19Z

Is anyone reading this book? While my notion of what the book was going to be and what it is are entirely different I am enjoying the excercises in it.

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Are you from Portland, OR?

2008-01-20T05:32:51Z

Hi, I am new to this tribe. I was introduced to some David Deida CD's last spring that were awesome. I then attended the Warrior Sage "Sex, Passion, and Enlightenment" workshop in LA last July and that was life changing to say the least! Theie workshops are based on David Deida's teachings.

Anyhow, I was wanting to connect with some like minded people on a similar path here in Portland, OR...not just for e-mailing, but to meet up in person for socializing, organizing and promoting sacred sexuality events/workshops/lectures, etc.

Interested?

By the way, Happy new year 2008!

: )

Joni
www.SpiritRetrieval.com

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Deida in Portland Oregon

2008-01-20T05:31:45Z

Is there any one interested in a Deida based women's group???

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Give Everything Now

2007-11-07T13:37:20Z

GIVE EVERYTHING NOW!!! Thu, November 1, 2007 - 8:40 PM
Give Everything Now

You are either withholding your love in fear or giving your deepest gifts. When it’s time to use the toilet, really time, all importance is reduced to the event.

Right now, and in every now-moment, you are either closing or opening. You are either stressfully waiting for something—more money, security, affection—or you are living from your deep heart, opening as the entire moment, and giving what you most deeply desire to give, without waiting.

If you are waiting for anything in order to live and love without holding back, then you suffer. Every moment is the most important moment of your life. No future time is better than now to let down your guard and love.

Everything you do right now ripples outward and affects everyone. Your posture can shine your heart or transmit anxiety. Your breath can radiate love or muddy the room in depression. Your glance can awaken joy. Your words can inspire freedom. Your every act can open hearts and minds.

Opening from heart to all, you live as a gift to all. In every moment, you are either opening or closing. Right now, you are choosing to open and give fully or you are waiting. How does your choice feel?

excerpt from Blue Truth

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Men's/Women's Deida Workshop in S.F.

2007-09-26T22:13:05Z

Two of David Deida's long-time teaching assistants, Sabrina Chaw and Kaidan Erwin, will be leading a men's/women's workshop on 10/13/07 from 9 - 4pm at One Taste in S.F. This workshop is for you if you want to:

* Feel your unique gifts in your particular form as a Masculine or Feminine being
* Learn how to offer your deepest self in love, even in the midst of intense emotions
* Open into the practice of a two-bodied form of prayer - HE as Consciousness, and SHE as Love
* Realize the true meaning of Love, beyond any intellectual or pre-conceived idea, THROUGH your body, in actual applcation

Cost is $150 per person or $280 per couple. Call One Taste at (415) 503-1100 to register. Pass the word! This is a rare opportunity to be taught by those who personally have apprenticed under David Deida to bring the beauty of this work forth.

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My Own Private Patriarchy

2007-09-19T20:58:36Z

Having read through _Way of the Superior Man_ now twice and listening to a few of MP3's of Deida I am finding a lot of his stuff fundamentally patriarchal and "essentialist" in the way that feminists use the word: essentially a kinder and gentler version of the basic message right-wing Christian groups such as Promise Keepers assert.

1. There are essentially different gender types, which may be in opposite bodies
2. A juicy relationship will involve two different types which play off one another
3. Men are essentially purpose-drive and women are shallow, emotional and irrational
4. If everyone just accepts this their lives will be simpler and more satisfying

It reminds me more than I care to admit of D&S BDSM and authoritarian Christians.
How are such binary conceptions and embracing of rigid roles really liberating?
How is Deida not just the same patriarchal crap done over in gender-trendy pastels?

Or do the real men just ignore such nattering questions and real women not worry their pretty heads about it?

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Ongoing Deida Men's Group accepting new members

2007-09-11T21:57:24Z

DC Men's Group (based on David Deida's "Way of the Superior Man") started in 2006 and is now accepting new members for a 6-12 month curriculum. You must read the book before joining the group. This Workshop is not for the faint of heart. If you are satisfied with your habits, tendencies, and closures as they are now, this would not be the best use of your time. If you are ready to be challenged toward outgrowing your past so you can give your best today and tomorrow, then this workshop is for you. call 202 387 4087 for more info

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David Deida groups in bay area?

2007-09-06T23:38:38Z

Hi

I'm looking to join a David Deida group or maybe even create one in the Bay Area. It would be a mixed group of men and women that I'm looking for or to create. Can you share your experiences in such a group and if you're currently participating in one?

Many thanks,
Lynda

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FYI David Deida will be speaking in LA

2007-08-18T20:51:02Z

Check out www.DeidaInLa.com...

Love & light,

TT

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The Way of the Superior Man Workshop in September at The Mountailn

2007-08-16T13:08:17Z

Is anyone else here going to the workshop at The Mountain
at the end of September? I've just signed up.

--Darrell

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You Attract Your Reciprocal

2007-08-11T13:40:35Z

You Attract Your Reciprocal

When I feel the openness of your heart, I can feel how closed I have been to love. The softness of your body invites me to relax open and feel you. And when I feel you, the depth of your yearning calls the depth of my desire for you. I want to enter you as deeply and passionately as I feel your heart yearning to be entered, and I want to open you even more deeply with my love.

But when your yearning heart is hidden behind the tense cover of your body, then it is easy for me to continue on my way, doing my duties, accomplishing my tasks, or resting alone, without you. I can’t fully see your heart’s light through the hardness of your demeanor. I can’t really feel your heart’s longing for love, only your desire to get something done. I assume you want to be left alone to do what you need to do. So, I don’t touch your hurried body or infiltrate your shell of doing with my love.

I have learned that sometimes, even though you don’t show it, your heart actually does want to be touched by my love beneath your headlong actions. So, I have learned to take a moment and slow down with you when the time feels right, pressing my love into you, until you soften and open your heart, before continuing with your day. And you have learned to do the same for me, dear lover.

But I wonder if you are aware of how significantly your current disposition affects my heart’s desire to enter you and my body’s desire to touch you in love. Your yearning heart opens a love-depth in my otherwise surface day and calls me to feel into your deep longing, inviting my desire to open with you as love’s surrender.

But if I am only able to feel your tense body, then your company feels more like stress that I have to deal with. Although I am committed to opening you as deeply as I can with my love even when you are closed, the depth of my passionate desire for you is invited by the fullness of your yearning, which you show, moment by moment, through the trusting surrender of your body’s openness to love.

If you don’t have a man in your life who claims your heart with his love and opens you to God, you are probably not fully offering your heart to be claimed while opening your body to flow with love’s bliss—right now. You always attract and inspire a man as deeply committed to opening in love as you are—right now—which means that a man will be as actively present with you as you are actively radiating your love and allowing your yearning to open in his company and when you are alone.

Right now, how fully is your heart yearning open? How deeply do you want your heart’s longing to be met? How actively are you allowing love’s yearning to open through your feet, your thighs, your neck? Is your heart and belly as open now as if you were making love with a trusted lover while breathing the hearts of all beings? Probably not. Most likely, your heart is less than devotionally surrendered and your body is less than overflowing with love’s yearning pleasure. Therefore, you will attract a man who is less present than your heart truly desires.

Deep in your heart, you probably want to be with a man who could be totally present with you when you are together, as if he were making love with you, even at the dinner table or while taking a walk. To attract such a man, to evoke his fullness, you must be offering yours. His presence and the offering of your heart’s yearning go together; he drifts when you close down, you close down when he drifts. He wants to claim you when you trust him with your worship of his consciousness. And you open, offering your yearning and surrender to him, when you feel his deep claim and worship of your heart.

If you are not currently in relationship with such a man, feel yourself: Right now, are you opening and breathing the love that flows at the heart of all beings, feeling their suffering and their joy? Are you actively opening, breathing, and receiving this moment’s force of love into your body and heart—as if you were taking your lover deep inside, offering him your most vulnerable yearning of feminine devotion and the untamed gifts of your energy?

If you are offering your heart’s deepest yearning, then you will attract and inspire a man’s deepest presence, right now. If your heart’s surrender is cautious and your body’s flow of energy is minimal, then you will, in this moment, attract and inspire a man whose presence is easily distracted and whose heart is uncalled to feel you deeply.

How do you open now? Start by breathing deeply, filling your belly pregnant with breath-force while you inhale, then exhaling and releasing all hold of tension. Breathe deeply in and out through every part of your body. Breathe in and out of your feet so your toes wiggle and you continue breathing open every part of your body: your legs come alive, your vagina softens and moistens, your belly grows round and full with pleasure, your heart opens and feels, your arms and hands and fingers unfold as sprouts of your heart, your throat softens and your neck elongates, your face and lips and eyes and head all relax open. Breathe fully and relax your entire body open, from toe to head.

Then, as you breathe, feel outward from your heart. If you have a lover, then breathe him—his shape, his joy, his suffering—in and out of your heart. If you have children, then breathe them and all your friends in and out of your heart. Open your heart to feel your community and eventually the entire world, breathing all—people, animals, plants, ocean, forest, even the night’s darkness—in and out of your heart. Allow your heart to open and feel all, breathing all. Feel alive as all, breathing as the yearning that opens at all hearts.

Soften your body so your heart can actively breathe the openness of this moment. This moment exists as openness. Feel the actual aliveness of this moment, living within you, living as you, and living all around you. This moment is alive as love, as openness.

As if you were soaking in an ocean of love, relax open your throat, heart, belly, and genitals to receive love’s saturation. Lovingly melt your heart and body open as the fullness of this moment.

With practice, you learn to breathe and feel the love alive as the universe and the yearning at the heart of all beings. You learn to melt open and receive every moment’s love-fullness into your whole body. In response, your natural gesture is to offer yourself open as love, as a lover gives herself to her beloved. It is as if God were making love with you and you were offering all of yourself open to God.

Right now, are you receiving this moment’s divine ravishment down to your love-splayed toes? Are you offering your body as a sacred gift, surrendering your deep heart fully to be claimed by love’s earthly embodiment?

To attract a man of heart-depth and inspire his fullness, you must be offering yours.

excerpt from Dear Lover

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Trust

2007-08-09T09:22:10Z

This is a long one...please take the time to go on this journey.

Trust Him More Than Yourself

For a woman to experience her deepest sexual bliss and openness, she must trust her lover’s masculine more than she trusts her own.

Most women are capable of very deep sex. As a woman, your body and heart desire utter ravishment, total surrender, wave upon wave of pleasure and blissful love. But usually your sexual experience falls quite short of this.

If you are like most women, you know that sex can be better than it usually is. Even if you have not yet experienced it, you intuit a deeper sexual potential, although you may not know exactly how to get there.

For most women (and men), there are sexual skills to learn and emotional knots to untie. But no matter how skillful or easeful you become, your partner plays a huge role in how fully you will be willing to open sexually, physically, emotionally, and spiritually together.

Deep, ravishing sex involves the loving play of masculine and feminine forces. The masculine is consciousness, and manifests through the body as presence and direction. The feminine is love-light, and manifests through the body as radiance and life force. A sexy masculine person is very present and confident in direction. A sexy feminine person is very radiant and alive with life force. Presence and radiance attract each other and can realize their oneness in the depth of sexual embrace.

In truth, masculine and feminine are aspects of the one conscious light that is called the divine by many names. For the fullest expression of sex, love is necessary but not sufficient. In order for sex to become sacred ravishment, conscious light plays as two: one partner embodies the masculine force of consciousness, presence, and purpose, while the other partner embodies the feminine force of love-light, radiance, and life force. These days, many men and women are afraid to sexually embody these divine expressions. Why?

Each person, every man and woman, has both masculine and feminine within them. Years ago, men were forced by social custom to always play the masculine role and women to play the feminine. This felt suppressive and limited. So, modern-day social custom has evolved to idealize balanced men and women: people who are each supposed to embody both masculine and feminine in a kind of psychological wholeness and relational independence.

Being whole unto oneself is a sign of psychological health. But being able to take the next step, to relinquish your boundaries in order to realize and express something larger than yourself, is a sign of spiritual maturity. To grow beyond mere self-sufficient wholeness, you and your lover can learn to open your boundaries and relinquish sexual autonomy for the sake of two-bodied divine play.

If you are sexually playing the feminine, you want to be swooned by your lover’s unwavering presence, taken beyond all resistance into the overwhelming fullness of love, ravished into bliss. If you are playing the masculine, you want to feel your lover’s trust and be attracted into your lover’s radiant surrender so that you may give yourself utterly in the ravishment of your lover. As your hearts trust, your boundaries are relinquished, and masculine and feminine open—sometimes savagely, sometimes sublimely—as one conscious light.

But if you cling to psychological wholeness, you won’t be willing to relinquish your boundaries of self-sufficiency. If you are like many modern women, you have worked hard to establish healthy boundaries and actualize your own direction and purpose; relinquishing your own navigation seems dangerous. Yet, if you have a more feminine sexual essence, this trust and sexual surrender is exactly what your deep heart desires. So, if you want to open in deep sexual play, you can practice trusting your lover to play the masculine while you play the feminine.

Even more difficult is the fact that, today, many women have a more highly developed masculine than their lovers do. You may not want to surrender to your lover’s masculine direction because you don’t trust it. And if your masculine direction is more evolved than your lover’s is, then you shouldn’t surrender to your lover’s masculine. You are better off navigating yourself, following your own sexual lead! But if you do so, don’t expect that your masculine lover will desire you for long.

Would you like to feel your masculine lover desiring and diving into your feminine radiance? Put another way, how attracted would you be if your lover preferred his own radiance to yours? Would it turn you on if he spent more time looking at himself in his dressing room mirror than at you, desiring himself and inspiring himself with his own beauty and shine?

Would that attract you sexually, if your masculine lover were “self-sufficiently radiant,” so that he enjoyed his own shine more than yours? This is how you feel to him, if you are “self-sufficiently directional,” trusting your own navigation more than his. Deep down, if you have a feminine sexual essence, then you want him to desire your radiance more than his own, and he wants you to desire his navigation more than your own. That is how the divine wants to make love through your bodies.

The truth is simple and stark: If you want to open sexually as the feminine divine, you won’t experience the deepest bliss of ravishment unless you are with a lover who can sexually navigate deeper than you, and you trust your lover’s masculine more than your own.

This is the bottom line. It doesn’t matter how many sexual skills you know, or how open you are emotionally. If you don’t trust your lover’s masculine force and direction more than your own, you won’t open completely. You won’t let down your boundaries and surrender in deep trust to be sexually ravished by the divine masculine. Your lover’s masculine consciousness, presence, and direction must be capable of bringing you to a deeper, more blissful and open love than you are capable of directing yourself, or you won’t trust your lover’s navigation. You won’t open completely, and sex will stop short of divine ravishment.

Once you have balanced your inner masculine and feminine, once you have developed as an autonomous, whole person, then you have achieved psychological integration. But to experience divine sexual bliss, there is another step to take. Without losing your capacity for wholeness in everyday life, you can learn to relinquish your boundaries during sex, giving yourself entirely to be taken by the divine masculine force. But if your own masculine is more developed then your lover’s, then you will stop short of utter surrender—and well you should! Why follow your lover’s sexual navigation if your own is deeper and more heart-true?

Therefore, if you want to experience the fullest divine play as the feminine sexual partner, then you must choose a lover worthy of your trust. If you are in a relationship, your lover can cultivate his whole-body depth of presence as you cultivate your capacity to receive his heart-true navigation. Specifically, your lover’s masculine consciousness, presence, and direction should be more developed than yours, more capable of taking you into utter sexual openness and spiritual surrender than you are capable of taking yourself.

If your lover can offer you this gift, then why not let go of your own sexual lead and surrender to ravishment as you have always yearned?

If you don’t trust your lover’s masculine direction more than yours, then the best you can hope for is love without deep ravishment. If love is all you want, then the play of masculine and feminine is irrelevant. You can enjoy love with your friends, children, and parents. You can love yourself. You can love the divine. You can love your intimate partner in many ways, cuddling, gardening, raising a family. Love is the very nature of your being, the very nature of all being. Love is the openness of every moment.

But if you find yourself yearning for a love that includes ravishing sexual play, if you want to be taken, swept off your feet, and overwhelmed by the unrelenting force of divine masculine presence, then you must be with a lover whose masculine direction you trust—and desire—more than your own. Only then will you allow yourself to surrender, receive, and bloom open wide as the moment’s full light of love.

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Deida Men's Group forming in Philadelphia

2007-07-25T02:02:29Z

I was involved with a Deida men’s group for a number of years, and am currently attempting to start another one in the Philadelphia area. If your interested or have questions, I look forward to hearing from you.

Dane

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Testing men?

2007-07-20T01:06:25Z

I brought up the idea of how women test men on Ask a sexy man anything and it did not go over well.
I think we do it unconsciously. I know that if I call my man when I am feeling anxious and stressed , I want to know how he will deal with it.
Or eventually I need any man I am serious about to meet my neice and nephew and spend a day dealing with/ having fun with 2 kids.
How do you find yourself testing your mate, or being tested by your mate? David Deida seems to think it's a good thing ( the way of the superior man) That men grow from a challenge and women challenging their manhood is enevitable. What do you think?

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Looking for Deida men's group in Portland, OR

2007-04-23T22:08:37Z

I'm moving to Portland around May 1, and I'm hoping to join a goup of men committed to finding and living from their highest purpose, supporting each other, and holding each other acountable. I've read Way of the Superior Man, and I want to make some improvements. Are there any groups in the area? If not, is anyone interested? I'd be happy to start a group.

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Seattle area women's group

2007-04-14T02:41:50Z

Hello Ladies --

I am starting a women's group in the Seattle area based on the teachings of David Deida.
We will gather for the purpose of growing feminine radiance and
as support base for women to cultivate the divine feminine
in their lives . It will be a sacred space for growth, love, and deliciousity.

Please contact me if you are interested or know any women who may be.

Blessings,
Jill

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New LA Deida Tribe

2007-03-26T19:21:35Z

Please check out our new tribe if you are in Los Angeles

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new book "Instant Enlightenment"

2007-03-21T18:11:17Z

I preordered it on amazon and it just came in today!
I am surprized by how little it is but I guess it's like a little pocket book you can trot around with and get little hits of deida-esque instant enlightenments through the day. seems pretty cool, nothing too new but more a collection, or a minitravel size Blue Truth with lotsa little exercises. a little deida bible to thump around....it looks like a good one, and I'm sure I will have it all dogeared in no time.

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March 31st In Santa Cruz: A Tantric exploration of the divine masculine and the divine feminine

2007-03-20T00:24:06Z

Inner Expressions
A Tantric exploration of the divine masculine and the divine feminine

Facilitated by Kip Moore and Deborah Oppenheim

Would you like to:

• Explore how you relate to your own and the opposite gender
• Develop the Masculine & Feminine with in yourself
• Experience the meaning of empowerment within each gender
• Discover what is authentic within you

Then come and join us for “Inner Expressions” a one day play shop designed to help us expand our ability to experience our masculine or feminine aspects. We will be working in dyads, triads and sometimes with the whole group. The exercises are non sexual and fully clothed, and will include movement, breath work, communication skills and lots of fun. This is a safe sacred space where you no longer need to hide, even from yourself now is the time to integrate greater beings we are becoming.

March 31, 2007 9am-6pm
Aptos, CA
Cost $125.00 per person
Space is limited. To register contact Deborah (Kat) at 415 797 0548
or
email tantra_kat@yahoo.com

Deborah (Kat) Oppenheim: Is a CMT, intimacy coach and Tantra teacher, her Tantra education includes: The Source School of Tantra, SkyDancing Tantra, and Ipsalu Tantra traditions.

Kip Moore: is a nationally acclaimed teacher in both the SkyDancing Tantra and Ipsalu Tantra Kriya Yoga traditions. He has also studied with David Deida.

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DEIDA MENS GROUPS IN PHILA/SO.JERSEY

2007-03-10T05:56:22Z

I just did a Deida workshop at Kripalu and i want to continue studying and implementing what I learned. Does anyone know of any Mens Groups in Phila/So. Jersey? Also, my wife did the workshop and wanted to see if there are any Women's Groups in our area.

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Seattle Men's Intensive & Evening Seminar for Men and Women

2007-03-09T23:52:37Z

Eli Buren and Kaidan Erwin (two of David Deida's teaching assistants) are coming to Seattle for two events in March!

___________________________________________________________________
EVENING SEMINAR AT EAST WEST BOOKSHOP ON MARCH 14th (for Men & Women):

Sacred Sexuality: The Art of Yogic Intimacy
Teachings Based on the Work of David Deida

Our capacity to remain open and full in any given moment is at the heart of deep intimacy, as is the dance of polarity between masculine and feminine energies.
Eli Buren - One of David Deida's primary teaching assistants - is offering this evening's presentation and practices to assist in bringing the work of David Deida out of the books and into the body "where it lives".

We will explore the art of yogic intimacy through awareness of our moment to moment choice: to open into love or not! Fundamentally it is a feeling sense of our selves, our relations, and that which surrounds and pervades all of it. We will combine breath work, movement, and partner exercises to elicit the whole being in grounded openness.

Eli currently leads men's groups, yoga sessions, and mixed workshops in the United States & Europe. He is gifted in guiding men and women into deeper bodily expressions of Spirit, where authentic presence and heart offerings live.

Please wear loose and comfortable clothing.
$20 prepay, $25 same day

________________________________________
MEN'S WEEKEND INTENSIVE WITH ELI & KAIDAN:
Flyer located at: http://saffronmoon.com/Seattle%20Men%27s%20Intensive.pdf

The Men's Intensive is based on David Deida's book The Way of the Superior Man.

During this weekend, you will:
- Uncover what it takes to live more aligned with you deepest life purpose
- Learn the necessary tools and orientation of attention to form, contain, and sustain a practicing men's group.
- Give and receive honest feedback and loving challenges to serve one another into greater fullness, strength, humor, and depth.
- Learn to conduct your life force and presence with bodily, breath, and energetic exercises.
- Deepen your core masculine essence with a community of courageous men willing to go all the way.
- Practice living the disposition of openness and freedom amidst life's most difficult challenges!

See the link to the flyer above for more information and for my contact details to register.

ONLY 20 SPACES ARE AVAILABLE FOR THE MEN'S WEEKEND! Fee is $265 before March 2nd, $295 after.

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Deida-Styled Men's Yoga Session March 7th in SF

2007-03-04T06:08:05Z

Gentleman,

I wanted to let you all know that i am offering a men's yoga session Wednesday the 7th from 7pm till 9:30pm at the 965 Mission street venue. Room 210. Cost $25.

Combining aspects of the yoga of feeling awareness and Deida men's work into a strong container of bodily practice, integrity, and spirit.

Purposed towards exploration and moment to moment reflection of your relationship to life force in the BODY. And how that directly relates to your friendships, intimate relationship, and life's mission.

To register RSVP at deidawork@yahoo.com and feel free to forward this to any men that you feel would be served by this work. Come in loose comfortable clothes and bring a yoga mat if you have one.

Note: You do not need to have any yoga experience to join us. This session is oriented towards depth and consciousness rather then ability to stretch your body!

I look forward to practicing with you men.

Best Regards,

Eli Buren
Deida Assistant Teacher

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Yogi Times Interview

2007-02-06T03:52:13Z

Just a heads up: David is interviewed in this month's issue of Yogi Times. I haven't had a change to read it yet, but it looks interesting.

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Way of the Superior Man event in Washington DC

2007-01-31T22:04:58Z

A DC WotSM men's group has been going for about 6 months. It is a powerful and dynamic group. We are sponsoring Eli Buren for a Weekend Intensive for men as well as a Mixed Event for men and women in March. Here are the details of the men's event:

This Men's Weekend Intensive is based on the groundbreaking work of David Deida, and other teachers.

Join us in a space of creative challenge, feedback, and sacred celebration with a community of dedicated men to reveal your shadows and live your greatest gifts.

This work is for any man who wants to grow through the challenges of relationship and purpose.

Designed to bring men together to recharge their masculine batteries and re-establish a true community of men's culture which is missing yet absolutely essential for survival in our modern world.

DURING THIS WEEKEND, YOU WILL:

Uncover what it takes to live more aligned with your deepest life purpose.
Learn the necessary tools and orientation of attention to form, contain and sustain a practicing men's group.
Give and receive honest feedback and loving challenges to serve one another into greater fullness, strength, humor and depth.
Learn to conduct your life force and presence with bodily, breath and energetic exercises
Deepen your core masculine essence with a community of courageous men willing to go all the way.
Practice living the disposition of openness and freedom even amidst life's most difficult challenges.

ELI BUREN
The Intensive will be led by Eli Buren. Eli has been a dedicated teaching assistant with David Deida for the past four years. He currently leads men’s groups and yoga sessions in the context of Davids workshops and on his own throughout America and Europe. Eli is gifted in guiding men into a deeper bodily expression of Spirit, living as fullness and true presence, by his example and inspiration.

DC MEN'S INTENSIVE

When: Saturday Mar. 24th, 10-7pm
Sunday Mar. 25th, 10-6pm

Where: 3423 Oakwood Terrace NW
Washington DC 20010

Fee: $300 ($275, if paid by March 2nd)
Advanc registration required

For more information: Call 202.387.4087 or
email: deidawork@yahoo.com

WARNING: This is not for the faint of heart. If you are satisfied with your habits, tendencies, and closures as they are now, this would not be the best use of your time.

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What Is Deida 101?

2007-01-31T21:51:32Z

Someone else on Tribe had suggested the book _Way of the Superior Man_ to me and I am swinging through it a second time this week, as I discover this tribe. For someone who is unfamiliar with Deida, how would folks explain him?

From the outside he looks a lot like other feel-good newage hucksters, a slightly more sophisticated Dan Millman who borrows from folks such as Nikos Kazantzaki to repackage various Taoist breathing techniques under semi-bombastic hetero-normative vagaries about "ravishment" and so on.

Does he make his money primarily by workshops? How much? How long? How wealthy? How white?

His books certainly don't convey the attraction people seem to have to him. Are people who appreciate him new to these issues? What am I not "getting" about Deida?

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Deida on you tube

2007-01-23T19:31:15Z

yipee!
finally some deida on you tube....

http://www.youtube.com/profile_videos?user=IntegralNaked&page=3

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8L1NRsaGanA

enjoy....

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Deida in Portland Oregon

2007-01-16T21:02:13Z

Wow! I just came back from my first Deida workshop and I'm blown away. I feel like this is the first Tantra workshop I've attended that has really met me at my edge and not inadvertently perpetuated the "new age" mask. Hell yeah:-)

I'm curious what events are happening around Deida in Portland, OR and the surrounding areas and if anyone is practicing around here....

Thanks!

Isis

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For Mac

2006-11-29T01:11:56Z

Mac -

http://deida.tribe.net/photos/13bb3c50-f944-40dc-94f5-806be57d028e

I warned you about playing nice.

This is a tribe for people who dig Dieda's work, or are at least agnostic and sincerely curious about it. There are plenty of tribes for the kind of expression you've been giving, but this is not it.

Please give me a good reason why I should not classify you as a troll, ban you from the tribe, and delete the threads that you have started? A *good* reason, please.

Adam

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Looking for an ongoing group in Hollywood or let's start one

2006-10-30T19:05:20Z

Wish to join or start a Deida based group in or around Hollywood I am missing the connection of my former group in Marin
Open to most weeknights Let's talk

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Seattle mens group?

2006-10-18T04:41:05Z

I'm looking for a mens group in the Seattle/Bellevue area that uses Deida as a guide for discussion. Please let me know if you are involved in or aware of any group(s).

- Bob

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Seattle area Deida group

2006-10-18T04:32:08Z

Hi there,

I have attended two workshops with David Deida and will be attending my second with Sofia Diaz in October. I would love to either join or start a Women's group in the Seattle area based on their teachings. I am looking for women who already know of such a group or are interested in joining one. Seattle Goddesses -- where are you?!

My partner is also looking for a Men's group in the Seattle area, so Men, let me know of your interest, as well.

Blessings and love,
Jill

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Has anyone seen David lately?

2006-10-09T03:56:56Z

Is he alive? Is he an urban legend?

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Deida Style Mens Intensive in London.

2006-10-03T07:46:46Z

Please pass this to any London Men who are inspired by the work of Deida.

Much Love

Steve

Are you living your deepest purpose as a man?

* Join us in a space of creative challenge, feedback, and
sacred celebration with a community of dedicated men to
reveal and live your deepest shadows and greatest gifts.

*
The Men’s Intensives are based on the groundbreaking work of David Deida, and other teachers.
This work is for any man who wants to grow through the challenges of relationship, purpose, and authenticity in his life.
Designed to bring together men to recharge their masculine batteries and re-establish a true community of men’s culture,
which is missing yet absolutely essential for survival in our modern world.

During this Intensive, you will:

* Learn to conduct your life-force and presence with bodily and energetic exercises.

* Give and receive essential feedback on how to overcome your resistances to being a more trustable man and embracing your depth.

* Relax into the mystery as you deepen your core masculine essence with a community of courageous men willing to go all the way.

* Uncover what it takes to live more aligned with your deepest life purpose.

Eli Buren has been a dedicated teaching assistant with David Deida for the past three years. He currently leads men’s groups and yoga sessions in the context of David’s workshops and on his own throughout America and Europe. Eli is gifted in guiding men into a deeper bodily expression of spirit, living as fullness and true presence, by his example and inspiration.

Michael Levin has been facilitating and leading men’s groups for over 10 years, initially through the Mankind Project and since then as a catalyst for deepening men’s authenticity and community. Eli and Michael are currently offering programmes worldwide for men’s growth and deepening.

London Men’s Intensive • December 2 & 3, 2006

Where: The Resource Centre (Conference Hall) 356 Holloway Road, London N7 6PA

Times: Saturday 7 pm - 10 pm • Sunday 10 am - 7 pm

Fee: £140 (£125, if paid by October 31)

To sign up or for more information, email the_othereye@zen.co.uk

WARNING: This is not for the faint of heart. If you are satisfied with your habits, tendencies, and closures as they are now, this would not be the best use of your time.

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David Deida in L.A. 9/19

2006-09-23T01:58:34Z

FYI

A Spiritual Guide to Life & Death and Love & Sex with David Deida

Tuesday, 09/19/06 06:45PM to 09:30PM

The location for this class will be:
DOUBLETREE Santa Monica - 1707 4th St. - 4th and Pico - Parking $10 - Phone (310) 395-3332.

If you have any further questions please feel free to contact The Learning Annex office at (310) 478-6677 to speak to a registrar.

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Need 2 Tickets SF 9/21

2006-09-21T04:00:28Z

I need two for Learning Annex Thrsday in SF

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Deida Men's Group forming in Washington DC area

2006-09-11T21:33:06Z

A men's group is forming based on the writings of David Deida, (The Way of the Superior Man) to assist men who want to:
Grow beyond your fears and habits through the heart-connected challenges of other men.
Fully embody your depth of consciousness so everyone can feel it.
Give and receive heartfelt feedback on how well you are living your life and spiritual practice.
Live aligned with your deepest life's purpose.
Penetrate your woman with your love and presence so deeply that she opens to God.
Live at your edge with fearless presence.

First meeting to be in DC on October 5 at 7:30pm

Subsequent meeetings may be in Maryland.

call Jack 202 387 4087

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Mens group - What after Curriculum 1 & 2?

2006-09-11T21:01:48Z

We have just finished the David Deida curriculum 1 and 2 and just starting planning for the next step.
We started out 18 men two years ago. Now were 7 brave left. Feels like we need to bring in fresh blood
to get that edge back.

So my questions to you with experience of this is:
Where do we go from here?
What are your experiences of life after Curriculum 1&2?
How do we go deeper?

/Carl
The Mens Group "Gods and Garbage", Sweden

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relationship jokes

2006-09-05T17:26:16Z

an old deida-list friend of mine sent me these. i can't resist passing them on....

Just One Wish

A woman was walking along the beach when she stumbled upon a Genie's lamp. She picked it up and rubbed it, and lo-and-behold a Genie
appeared. The amazed woman asked if she got three wishes.

The Genie said, "Nope. . . due to inflation, constant downsizing, low
wages in third-world countries, and fierce global competition, I can
only grant you one wish. So. . . what'll it be? "

The woman didn't hesitate. She said, "I want peace in the Middle East.
See this map? I want these countries to stop fighting with each other."

The Genie looked at the map and exclaimed, "Gadzooks, lady! These
countries have been at war for thousands of years. I'm good but not
THAT good! I don't think it can be done. Make another wish. "

The woman thought for a minute and said, "Well, I've never been able
to find the right man. You know, one that's considerate and fun, likes
to cook and helps with the housecleaning, is good in bed and gets
along with my family, doesn't watch sports all the time, and is
faithful. That's what I wish for. . a good mate."

The Genie let out a long sigh and said, "Let me see that fuckin' map!"

Alternate version (for men)

A man was walking along a California beach and stumbled across an old
lamp. He picked it up, rubbed it and out popped a genie. The genie
said "OK, OK. You released me from the lamp, blah blah blah.This is
the fourth time this month and I'm getting a little sick of these
wishes so you can forget about three. You only get one wish!"

The man sat and thought about it for a while and said, "I've always
wanted to go to Hawaii but I'm scared to fly and I get very seasick.
Could you build me a bridge to Hawaii so I can drive my Vette over
there to visit?"

The genie laughed and said, "That's impossible. Think of the logistics
of that! How would the supports ever reach the bottom of the Pacific?
Think of how much concrete...how much steel! And the maintenance Of
that bridge! No - think of another wish."

The man said OK and tried to think of a really good wish. Finally, he
said, "I've been married and divorced four times. My wives always said
that I don't care and that I'm insensitive. So, I wish that I could
understand women ... know how they feel inside and what they're
thinking when they give me the silent treatment ... know why they're
crying, know what they really want when they say nothing ... know how
to make them truly happy ... I really want to understand women and how they think!"

The genie said, "You want that bridge with two lanes or four?"

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David Deida in SF

2006-08-29T04:11:10Z

September 21st at the Learning Annex, from 7-9:30pm. It costs either $40 or $90, depending on whether or not you want "Golden Circle Seating and VIP Reception" (whatever the hell that means) from 9:45-10:45.

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Austin, Texas Men's Group?

2006-08-25T01:26:01Z

Just watched Deida's Function, Flow and Glow video and want to learn more!

Is there anyone in Austin with experence?

King

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Upcoming Events at One Taste

2006-08-08T05:58:12Z

UPCOMING Events at One Taste Urban Retreat Center
1074 Folsom at 7th Street, San Francisco
415.503.1100
www.onetastesf.com

One Taste is a community-operated organization, we invite you to join us in creating events, gatherings, and work that fulfills our mission and enriches your life. Our vision of ONE TASTE goes beyond that of a community center. We see it as an experiment in evolution itself, creating new forms of interacting, experiencing, and learning with each other. We welcome fellow explorers who wish to join us in this adventure and experience deeply fulfilling community.

FREE LECTURES ON SENSUALITY
Mon, Tues, Thurs and Friday nights 7:30 to 9:30 Aug 12 to Sept 12th
The teacher trainers of One Taste's Urban Monk Program invite you to a series of two hour lectures on sensuality. During these lectures, we will be discussing man/woman dynamics, dealing with resistance, communication, and our practice, Orgasmic Meditation (OMing). This practice is an enhancement for any sex life. These lectures are by donation-only and are akin to a "dry run" for a theater production. We'll be stopping, starting, critiquing, and laughing at our flubs. Come learn in a fun and intimate environment. No experience necessary. RSVP appreciated. Please call 415.503.1100 or email us at info@onetastesf.com to reserve a spot or any questions. By donation.

URBAN MONK PROGRAM STARTS ON OCTOBER 16th: SENSUAL IMMERSION TRAINING
A three month program of daily practice, lectures, and exercises
Discover exactly who you are in a unique, once in a lifetime experience. Why an immersion program? At One Taste, you will experience a different approach to spiritual wholeness. Build your spiritual practice and being to integrate your awakening with the reality of the daily urban life. Join a community of people who have dedicated their lives to sensuality. Research your sensuality along side them by completely immersing yourself in their daily practice. Your 12 week program includes 3 healthy vegetarian meals daily, classes exploring sensuality and communication, yoga, meditation and personal coaching. Specialized evening program available. Contact Nicole Halpern at 415.503.1100 of nicoleh@onetastesf.com. $12,000 includes room and board. Other options dependant on length of program.

IN GROUPS: DELIBERATE COMMUNICATION GAMES
Wednesdays at 7:45pm
Savor MORE in your life: more fun, more honesty, more intimacy. Join us for an evening of communication games and explore the sensations of friendship, community, and being seen. Come find out what lies beneath the surface. No RSVP necessary. $10.

SAVE THE DATE: The Next Temple of Sirens Party, Gypsy Nights, is on Aug 25th

Upcoming Courses with the InSight Institute: www.insightinstitute.net
Sat, Aug 12th The Opening Course (Teacher Training) – Our Introductory Course $100-
Sun, Aug 13th, Adv Sensual Communication – Go underneath the communications $195-
Sat, Aug 19th: The Opening Course $195-
Sun, Aug 20th: The Advanced Opening Course Expand yourself to the next level $195-

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any men's groups in new york city?

2006-07-16T20:40:56Z

Hi, I just came back from a david deida weekend in Colorado and I'd like to continue the work with a Men's Group in New York, preferably in Manhatattan. Can anyone direct me?

Thanks

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Invitation to a new Arizona singles / tantra event

2006-07-16T06:48:08Z

I would like to invite you to a new type event for singles, happening next weekend in both Phoenix and Tucson …

Locations:
Friday, July 21 at 7:30PM
Tucson Marriott University Park Hotel
880 E. 2nd Street,Tucson AZ 85719
520-792-4100

Saturday July22nd at 7:30pm
Center for Divine Awakening (www.centerfordivineawakening.org)
15801 N. 40th Street Phoenix, AZ 85032
602-569-7421

Event Description:
This is a connective and gender-balanced evening where you can meet and interact new people, and feel free to be yourself, and self-expressive, within an environment of safety and security. Our special presenters for the evening will be relationship coaches Kip Moore and Lexi Fisher from Palm Springs CA ... for more information about them see their website at www.tantratransformation.com. This will be a 3 hour event, where you can play at your edge, and share from your core. Doors open at 7:30pm for registration.

Being able to live in love is our birthright, and love is the absence of fear. Tru Intimacy desires to offer an on-going series of connective events that provide tools so you can deepen relationships, including dating parties, special connective evenings, and also weekend-long experiential relationship workshops.

Maria Benko is the Tru Intimacy coordinator, and can be reached at 480-656-4306. Our website for both Phoenix and Tucson is www.truintimacy.org.

Let me know if you can help at least help spread the word about our event. If you have any questions, please contact me at weswolcott@hotmail.com. We do have a pdf. flyer that can be emailed.

Costs:
Event fee: $25.00 single / $40.00 couple or “paired singles” … you can register online at www.truintimacy.org ...

Again, this is a gender balanced event, so pre-registration is necessary. If you are coming as a single, we will make sure there is a match for you. And a couple can be considered as "paired singles," so bring a friend and save.

Special offers:
Mention that you saw this on Tribe and receive $10.00 off … which then would be $15 / $30. And if you can bring another couple to the event, your own admission for you and your partner, will be free.

Hope to see you there, as we attempt to bring something new to Arizona …

Sincerely,

Wes Wolcott
Tru Intimacy

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Any groups in San Francisco?

2006-05-11T21:55:09Z

Beena student of David for 2 years. Loking for a group in San Francisco.
John

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3 stages - where am I? where are you?

2006-04-24T22:00:48Z

I find myself identifying with all 3 stages. sometimes I identify with each stage...sometimes with all 3 at once....

has anyone else had this experience?

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Sacramento in a Few Months

2006-04-20T02:18:34Z

I heard from someone that the double D is holding a two-day in Sacramento in April or May. Anyone got the deets? I already looked on deidacentral and bluetruth. A URL to a web page would be ideal, if there is one up.

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Reclaim your sensual self at One Taste: A different perspective

2006-04-13T18:37:10Z

Tuesday, April 18th at 7:30pm
One Taste Urban Retreat Center (www.onetastesf.com)
Register at http://www.learningannex.com/default.taf?sctn=A&_function=detail&cnum=999CSF&cat=

Description
Learn the tools you need to experience greater sensual freedom in this unique class offering. This open and safe introduction will start you on a journey to experiencing a deeper conscious contact with pleasure and desire that can transform your life. Learn to re-evaluate your orgasmic experience by her approach, which:

* Introduces a basic principle which draws on developing awareness, approval in the here and now and a deeper capacity to feel

* Teaches a simple technique that can be practiced daily to expand connection, intimacy and sensation.

* Gives the individual a method to use their sexuality to transform all aspects of their experiences

* Helps you uncover and speak your deepest desires with ease.

* Shows how a person can access raw sensuality anytime, anywhere with anyone

* Reveals a set of specific tools, which will help you unlock emotional blocks that prevent you from living life fully

* Teaches proven methods to move through resistance and gives a comfortable knowledge of the most sensitive parts of women's and men's bodies.

Nicole Daedone is a graduate of an intense experiential course geared to expand female orgasm. She was first educated at Temple University and later at San Francisco State. Daedone was mentored by Dr. Dean Barnlund, an early collaborator of Alan Watts, graduated at the top of her class and awarded The Golden Key, presented to ten percent of the country’s graduate students. She has spent the last seven years devoting her energy to the work of Dr. Victor Baronco, founder of More University. Daedone has taught courses for the past 11 years, starting at San Francisco State. Last year she founded One Taste and The InSight Institute to share her techniques of self-actualization and transformation.

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interesting conversation

2006-04-09T23:06:54Z

A topic in Tantra tribe turned to some discussion of Deida. Thought folks here might be interested in reading it:

http://tantra.tribe.net/thread/35b23240-84db-4ef1-a7c2-30d9b5b95eab

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david deida in sacramento....again

2006-04-07T21:22:37Z

suprised this hasn't been posted yet:

http://www.deidacentral.com/events/deida051406.aspx

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Understanding our differences as a road to acceptance

2006-04-02T21:53:42Z

Men an women are different, there's no question about that. Understanding how and why we are different can open up more empathic relating and decrease misguided feelings of hurt and abandonment.
Empathy for each others' experience can connect us on many different planes. Empathy can help us see our interconnectedness and relegate the differences to inconsequential derivitives of our biological legacy and social conditioning.
I have worked with men and women for over 25 years (now as a psychotherapist) and have developed a workshop for women to help them understand how and why men are generally different from them.
So many times in my psychotherapy practice both men and women have asked "Why does s/he think/act/feel that way?" It makes it much easier to find acceptance through understanding than to defend against what appears to be insensitive/rude/uncaring/manipulative behavior.

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Men's Group Forming in Los Angeles

2006-03-11T10:51:52Z

Hi folks,

My name is Andrew Schwartz and I just noticed this Tribe -- so, hello!

I discovered David Deida's work just a few months ago, and I've found it remarkably insightful and helpful, particularly in terms of my relationships with men and with the woman in my life.

And since I'm a workshop leader (see my Tribe profile for more details), I decided to start a men's group here in LA, with a friend, to both explore and cultivate experientially masculine power.

You can read more about what we're planning on this page: http://www.interpersonalmeditation.com/masculinepower.html

And if you have any interested in possibly attending the first meeting of this group, please contact me. Or, if you know any men in LA who might be interested, please pass the link along to them!

Best wishes to all,

Andrew Schwartz

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DOES ANYONE KNOW OF A SAINT OR GURU OR GODDESS WHO....

2006-02-27T23:24:05Z

went through a period of transformation that caused a rash?

I am a Tantrica who has delved so deep into the self that my body is responding with intense rashes very often and to subtle shifts in eating....right after coming back from Tantra initiations and transformations.

Does anyone know any book to recommend on the ascension process of saints or Ascended Masters?

looking for more knowledge on this....
Om, Astarte.

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Anyone putting Deida's work into practice?

2006-02-22T20:03:22Z

Was in NY just a a couple of weeks ago and just missed his last seminar there but had a great experience meeting Divine Ama. Not what I was expecting but hey, whatever works. My spiritual brother Jade had a very powerful experience and with a little sharing the fire he's suddenly got going again, Deida's work has come to life for me. Trying to stay open in the face of my most difficult issues has been extremely painful yet wonderful when I finally started to breath into the emotions and open wide.
Would be great to see a discussion on what people's experiences have been in putting Deida's work in to practice here.

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Deida work in LA?

2006-02-10T02:25:15Z

I am looking for information on any David Deida work being done in LA. I am familiar with Warrior Sage and know they come a few times a year. Anything else here?

For the dance,
Glory
www.pranainmotion.com

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Orgasmic Meditation at the Learning Annex

2006-01-12T06:56:12Z

Nicole Daedone and the One Taste team will be teaching a 2 hour introduction to Orgasmic Meditation on 1/31 and 2/28. If you know of anyone who want to get an intro for this practice and doesn't necessarly want to do a full day course where you take your clothes off, please sign up at www.learningannex.com (search for orgasm). This class is $50 with $5 off if they sign online.

Course description:
Learn the tools you need to experience greater sensual freedom with this hands-on offering. This open and safe introduction will start you on a journey to experiencing a deeper conscious contact with pleasure and desire that can transform your life. Learn to re-evaluate your orgasmic experience by her approach, which:

* Introduces a basic principle which draws on developing awareness, approval in the here and now and a deeper capacity to feel

* Teaches a simple technique that can be practiced daily to expand connection, intimacy and sensation.

* Gives the individual a method to use their sexuality to transform all aspects of their experiences

* Helps you uncover and speak your deepest desires with ease.

* Shows how a person can access raw sensuality anytime, anywhere with anyone

* Reveals a set of specific tools, which will help you unlock emotional blocks that prevent you from living life fully

* Teaches proven methods to move through resistance and gives a comfortable knowledge of the most sensitive parts of women's and men's bodies.

Nicole Daedone is a graduate of an intense experiential course geared to expand female orgasm. She was first educated at Temple University and later at San Francisco State. Daedone was mentored by Dr. Dean Barnlund, an early collaborator of Alan Watts, graduated at the top of her class and awarded The Golden Key, presented to ten percent of the country’s graduate students. She has spent the last seven years devoting her energy to the work of Dr. Victor Baronco, founder of More University. Daedone has taught courses for the past 11 years, starting at San Francisco State. Last year she founded One Taste and The InSight Institute to share her techniques of self-actualization and transformation.

Held at The Learning Annex, downtown San Francisco

I'd like to Register for this Class, through The Learning Annex Sign in soon, sections may fill up!

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Robert Bly

2005-12-06T04:47:22Z

Howdy

I have passing familiarity with Bly as a poet, but I am not familiar with his work on the masculine psyche. I would be interested to hear thoughts about Iron John, and whether it's in the same ballpark as Mr. Deida's work, or if it is its own animal.

Rawrr!
Barnaby

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Way of the Superior Man - audio book

2005-10-05T23:54:46Z

Way of the Superior Man
is out on CD

available now at
www.bluetruth.org

Amazon claims they will have it in Novemberr

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deida in scramento

2005-09-24T21:06:11Z

Sept 11-15 see www.deida.info for details
peace

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his daily quotes

2005-09-06T00:53:48Z

"Your man's body of love is a wedge that can open you to God.
Your man's heart is a force that can claim you beyond your self-centered moods.
Learning to open with your man prepares you to open in loving communion with everyone's heart."

from Dear Lover

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Devadasis: new tribe

2005-08-16T21:17:10Z

i started a new tribe for devadasis.
here's more:

tribes.tribe.net/cdfe1507-...-45b9-abe7-c7e2b29ebddf

devadasi means a female servant of god.
trained in dance, literature, music and the playing of musical intruments, Devadasis were dedicated to temples for entertaining the Lord.
They were highly respected for having the unique privilege of being in close proximity to the Lord and known as celestial singers and attendants to the Lord.
Owing to their own exalted status and role in society, Devadasis became a community. Members from most castes and communities, including orphans could become apart of the Devadasi community. Dance as an art form was performed and celebrated. The Agamas, sacred texts that established rules for worship in temples, ask for female dancers to serve in temples, especially those dedicated to Shiva.
In the 9th to 12th century AD the Devadasi system was at its height. Devadasis were dedicated to the massive temples built during this time around which their lives revolved, cleaning the temples, dressing the deities singing devotional songs and perfomring sacred acts of worship. The art of dance was meant for entertaining the Gods and took place in front of the image of the Lord. The Devadasis were often large-hearted and charitable and saved people, even their own Kings, from humiliation, donating land and giving away gold ornaments as acts of worship.The generosity of the Devadasis was matched by that of their patrons - kings and lords who endowed temples handsomely. Although much of the history surrounding the Devadasis seems to be maligned and full of misconceptions, we choose to honor and celebrate these sacred practices in our lives as worshippers of the Lord through song, dance, literature and by keeping the sacred flame of the Lord's temples burning

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monogamy/ polyamory

2005-07-30T02:43:21Z

Hi everyone. This is the first time I've posted here but was just thinking that Deida and/ or you all might have some insight into this question. I also saw that there's been a thread on this topic already, but maybe we can open the discussion again.

I am dating a man who wants to be in an open relationship. He doesn't want to feel like he is forbidden to love anyone, and he wants to be free to respond to stimulus, play and love as they come to him. I understand those feelings, and I love him in his freedom and aliveness and wouldn't want to restrict that.

As it turns out, though, as much as I wanted to do that, it pains me greatly to know that he is physically and emotionally connecting to other women. I love him and feel vulnerable with him, and feel like I can't open up to him and trust him if I know that he could just go and love someone else at any moment.

I haven't quite gotten to the bottom of these feelings, so they're hard to articulate, but I know it has something to do with insecurity, and my desire to feel his full-hearted commitment to loving me before I can open wide to him. He says that he has a full-hearted commitment to loving me, but that it doesn't preclude him from loving other people, but something in me just needs to feel a measure of safety/ security in order to trust. I need to have some degree of assurance that he is there for me and that he's not going to love some other woman more - right now, it feels like that could happen at any moment.

Yes, I know, nothing is safe or secure... and love is infinitely abundant, and perhaps this need for monogamy comes from a belief in scarcity... but it's still my feeling, no matter how much I believe in the theory of openness. I still spent 24 hours crying after he hooked up with his ex-girlfriend! And now I feel like my quest is to try to understand if this is something I want to move towards, or what the lesson is in this.

As I am writing I am wishing I could embrace this kind of trust and openness that he envisions... but a friend of mine (who is in a long-term committed monogamous relationship) said, why do you need to have multiple partners to feel freedom in love? And I think I agree with that - why can't it be freedom for us to explore the contours and possibilities of love, just the two of us?

Is monogamy just a social construct or is it something more fundamental? Is it fundamental to women, on some biological level in that we are looking for secure mates to make families with, or do men have primal urges towards monogamy also?

Your thoughts are welcome...
thanks all
Love
Caitlin

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Question

2005-07-04T04:42:12Z

A friend suggested I read some of this man's writings...where should I start?

He has written quite a few books and I don't want to jump into one without a background possibly needed from another.

Love,

Sugar

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meeting people on tribes

2005-06-11T17:50:31Z

(this may be a cross-post for some of you here. sorry for the double, if so; it feels like dd-related material.)

i've had a couple interesting experiences lately having to do with people asking me to join tribes or friend's lists.

sometimes it's a tribe about a topic i just have no interest in spending my time on. sometimes a request to be added as a friend. my responses range from a simple 'no, thank you' to asking more about the person or topic involved. i notice i seem to have good intuition, when i don't feel a quick 'yes' in myself, that i'm picking up energy or attitude that's somehow inharmonious.....

my sense is that interacting with people online is good practice in feeling these energies. but i wonder what it is we're reading, and how my own kinks may be involved in being attracted and repelled by certain dynamics. how 'clean' am i in offering presence instead of exchanging hooks?

comments?

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Found your mission?

2005-05-30T03:10:43Z

Folks -

Would any of you operating predominantly in the masculine care to share your experience with the quest for "mission"? Deida makes it quite clear that without it, we are lost. All relationships will suffer and life will be ultimately be unsatisfying without clarity of purpose and then playing it near the edge.

In my experience, I have met many people who never have been sure about what they're here to do and others who just seem to have always known.

But if you're not one of the latter, how does one, or did you, get from here to there?

Thanks in advance,

-- Scott

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Writing about my feminine essence after reading Deida's book

2005-05-13T19:28:27Z

My Feminine Essence

(I wrote this piece after reading David Deida's "Intimate communion [electronic resource] : awakening your sexual essence" available as an electronic book via sf public library online: http://www.sfpl.org/
my love to everyone who is supporting me in the process of embracing my feminine essence through my writing and questioning)

Please don't separate yourself from me. My feminine essence blossoms in your love and support. The flower that is my heart drinks nectar of your love, and grows stronger from the light that is your faith.

Please don't push me away, my feminine core is fragile and needs your encouraging words and open embrace. It needs to feel appreciated to overcome fear and shyness. It needs to be nurtured and held. When you are distant it snaps away, and I am back to being the assertive, cold, efficient woman that doesn't know how to love you.

Please don't close yourself off from me. My feminine spirit yearns to flow like a gentle breeze, to glide over your scars and takes with it your anger and pain. My feminine soul understands your secret fears, it offers to kiss your palm to calm the tidal waves in your heart. My feminine essence wants to be wild, it yearns to give itself up to you and blossom in the rich dark forest of your secret longings.

I want to be mother earth for you, to hold your pain and be deeply nurturing of your wounds. I want to be ocean tides for you, to surprise and excite you with my vibrant life and energy. I want to be snowy mountains for you, supporting you gently when you fall. I want to be tropic paradise for you, relaxing and open, rejuvenating your body and soul.

I want to be a singing siren for you, tempting you with my words of admiration and adoration.
I want to be a tender-hearted child for you, sharing my innocence and trust.
I want to be a woman warrior for you, courageous in my pursue of growth and self improvement.
I want to be a loving spirit for you, glowing with my feminine essence.

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Womans groups?

2005-03-04T01:47:04Z

I´ve been searching for a womans group in Los Angeles and found zero. Does anyone know?

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Back to the basics

2005-03-02T15:18:56Z

Hello All,

i joined back this motley crew of David Deida characters (grammar was never my strength). hi.

um, I wanted to say that i have been listening to Deida on MP3 again and am finding him re-refreshing. I absorbed so much of his goodness several years ago and got to a point where I felt like I wanted a different angle than the one he offers. but now i am back to practicing his techniques in my daily life.

i think that i took a lot of what i had received from him for granted, the practices that were woven into my being. and also i think i developed a lot of "negative feminine" along with the positive feminine.

i believe balance is an active not static principle, and that to achieve balance requires making adjustments, actively and flexibly, so i am balancing myself out again, integrating the feminine that i practised very hard to realize with the masculine that came relatively easily to me before.

guess i just wanted to acknowledge what a positive impact Deida's work has had on me in the past, and now, again in the current.

This is as God as it gets. --my favorite Deida quote.

love,
a

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weekend workshop

2005-02-26T23:18:27Z

Is anyone thinking of going to the weekend workshop Deida is putting on in New York City, April 15-17?

http://www.deidacentral.com/workshop04152005.asp

"This three-day weekend workshop on sex and spiritual growth in New York City is his only weekend training currently scheduled in 2005 that is open to the public, and it will sell out fast."

Has anyone been to one of his workshops, and could you share what you got out of it? My girlfriend is interested in going, and I'm seeing whether this is in alignment with what I'm creating in my life.

As context, I've read some Deida, and listened to a whole bunch of his talks on mp3, but never seen him live.

thanks,
Jon

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Copies of "Way of the Superior Man"

2005-01-26T18:52:06Z

Does anyone have a recommendation on where to pick up a copy of "The Way of the Superior Man"? I checked amazon.com, and they say it's out of print, but they have 8 copies, starting at $125.

I want to buy a copy for my sister's boyfriend, and send it out to them, so somewhere that had shipping would be ideal. Thanks.

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New Tribe: Radical Relationships

2004-12-14T21:56:48Z

Covering all aspects of relationship, especially..... "honesty"

radicalrelationship.tribe.net

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enlightened sex

2004-12-14T21:37:02Z

read it?

discuss.

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men's group

2004-12-14T21:33:43Z

hey guys, are there any deida-esque men's groups in northern california that meet regularly? i have a friend who has no guys to practice with.....

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Ken Wilber tribe

2004-12-04T00:07:14Z

You are cordially invited to the new Ken Wilber tribe:
http://kenwilber.tribe.net/

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Translating Deida's work

2004-10-11T21:30:09Z

I'm in the middle of reading INTIMATE COMMUNION, after ravishing through WILD NIGHTS. I love the concepts, but am getting really frustrated mapping it all onto my life as a gay man. It's just not clear for me...on a real real basic level yeah, it makes sense...but actually getting into the subtlties and making it all real in my life is a bit a of a stretch so far. I'd love to get into a dialogue with a gay guy/s who've really dug into this stuff and worked powerfully with it...

Thanks,
Scott

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g8d morning

2004-08-15T16:30:36Z

this poured out this morning and i'm gonna try it out here, see if it resonates with anyone besides me. :-)

ENLIGHTENMENT IS IRRITATINGLY POSSIBLE

Students might find sanity too spacious, too irritating. We would prefer a little claustrophobic insanity, snug and comforting insanity. Getting into that is like crawling back into a marsupial's pouch. That's the usual tendency, because acknowledging precision and sanity is too crispy, too cool, too cold. It's too early to wake up; we'd rather go back to bed. Going back to bed is relating to the mind's deceptions, which in fact we prefer. We like to get a little bit confused and set up our homes in that. We don't prefer sanity or enlightenment in fact. That seems to be the problem rather than that we don't have it or can't get it. If we really prefer basic sanity or enlightenment, it's irritatingly possible to get into it.

From CRAZY WISDOM, pages 142-143. Also in Volume Five of THE COLLECTED WORKS OF CHOGYAM TRUNGPA.

LOL!

and:

"Whatever you do in your life can become
an artistic expression of the love that you
are. And that changes the feel of
everything you do, including the way you
express your anger, your stubbed toe, your
hunger - there's always a sort of humorous
part of it because everything is already
love, even though you might be hurting."

--From "Living the 3rd Stage: The 3 Stages of Life", an MP3 CD by David Deida

---
i woke up this morning absolutely FULL with possibility. it's a stance i'm learning how to stand in, learning to ride the waves without my knees buckling altogether, a loose sort of posture where my limbs, guts and head have to allow their light tether to my heart to be the gravity they listen to. which is an omni-directional gravity in a functional sense. :-)

tuning in turns out to be one of those things best done lightly.

even listening, done too hard, takes on the prickly metallic aftertaste of grasping, and it's grasping that closes our ears to the heart's steady music. (gee, where have i heard this before?* LOL!) then the tether disappears, and i'm flailing instead of surfing.

well, damn! :-)))

*(my teacher always said, "you must listen with your whole body, your whole being." i never really heard that before!)

the BIG thing i tasted at this day's dawning is that, even tho 'fear vs love' is basically a valid dualistic "fact", the paradox is that it's ok, even necessary, to listen to fear. lightly, of course! in fact, if i don't relax to embrace it, by which i mean BEFRIEND it like a long-lost kin, i'm gonna spend a lot more time shadow-boxing - and wearing myself out. cuz ultimately, fear is just another repository of energy, and integrating it brings its own essential juice, that unqualifiable stuff we use to create with.

what am i creating? what's right in front of me? my fear befriended allows the rerouting of darker, less spacious, more uptight habits to bloom more beauty, more compassion, more wide-openness....which invites the fundamental waves of g*d to wash over and pass thru (and uplift and tickle just a little on the way out.)

life digs an open channel. (in both senses of the word 'dig') wee-heee!

Mmmmmm: at core, there's just light being bent into creation (she said as if she took the first-class tour.) :-)

i wanna make of me a prism, not a :-p black hole! and what's the sure-fire way to create that SPACE?

"i don't know" !!!!!!!!

grinning ear to ear like a disappearing cat~
love,
via

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plexus enigma solved

2004-07-28T15:51:28Z

aha! - that graphic plexus posted at deida.com came from the movie Donnie Darko, which i just watched tonight with my son. the protagonist has a poster of an eye in his bedroom, and later on in the movie a close up reveals the skull inside the eye. bingo!

great movie, too.
~v

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a challenge

2004-07-21T05:10:02Z

From Hagakure, a 17th Century classic on Bushido:

<excerpt>
Although it stands to reason that a samurai should be mindful of the Way of the Samurai, it would seem that we are all negligent. Consequently, if someone were to ask, "What is the true meaning of the Way of the Samurai?" the person who would be able to answer promptly is rare. This is because it has not been established in one's mind beforehand. From this, one's unmindfulness of the Way can be known.

Negligence is an extreme thing.
</excerpt>

I think this can be taken as an important challenge to men in relationship to their purpose in life. If I were to ask right now in this message "What is your purpose?", could you answer it, or would you hesitate?

If you do hesitate, why do you hesitate?

Why are you alive?

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What happened to Deida.com?

2004-06-26T02:40:56Z

http://www.deida.com/

Anyone know what's up with the eye?

Aaron

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Naked Buddhism

2004-06-19T17:53:57Z

Has anyone read it? Does anyone know where I can get it? I've been scouring the Internet, and so far I can't find it anywhere.

Speaking of which, DD's website has been down for quite a while now. I just get a scary eye when I try to check it out.

Deida quote of the day:
"Men usually discover their deepest purpose when they encounter death."

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A little fem in the house...

2004-05-25T02:30:11Z

It seems that I may be the first woman to join the Deida Men tribe. Is that possible? I joined to voice my support all Deida men on the path of bringing their most authentic, powerful and heart-driven masculine selves into our world. I have deeply, deeply appreciated the Deida work that so many of the men in my community have taken on, and I am a big hell yes to the radical impacts his distinctions have had on my own life and in the plunging depths of my intimate relationships.

I'm here to sound the feminine roar of ever-spiraling gratitude for men like you being willing to step up and up and up again in service of something bigger.

So that's why I joined. And I'm not sure if your collective intention is to remain an all-male tribe. If so, then I absoutely respect that too. Just let me know.

On a related note, I'm going to Costa Rica in June on a yoga/feminine retreat with Sofia Diaz (Deida's counterpart in the feminine realm), and am giddy, giddy giddy about that.

Rock on, men.

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Openness

2004-05-03T20:30:10Z

From Deida's website.

Not really any point to posting this, and I won't close up and stop talking to you if you don't read the whole thing. But Good Lord we've got to do something (i.e. I just want to post something to this tribe today, and this seems basically on topic).

Don't Wait for Perfection

You can be wide open and diseased at the same time.

No matter how sick you are in body or mind, you can still open. Disease may ravage your body and drugs may cloud your mind, and you can still open. Deep openness can encompass all states of body and mind.

Physical and psychological disorders need not obscure your openness, and your openness may not affect your pathologies. If you inherited nearsightedness from your parents, then spiritual openness probably won't change your need to wear glasses. If your mind has adapted to habits of panic instilled by years of childhood abuse, then spiritual openness probably won't eliminate your cringe at the sight of your lover's genitals.

However, you can be a myopic neurotic and still open with the freedom of unbound love. You may squint and become nauseated as your lover disrobes, but the humor of your response can avail. Like a muscular tic or a snotty nose, your emotional responses are natural effects of your history--perhaps uncomfortable, running their course largely beyond your immediate control. Nevertheless, you can offer your love, laughter, and openness even as you sniffle, panic, or shriek.

Right now, unique as you are in body and mind, you can practice opening fully.

Even as you open, laugh, and love, the patterns of your body and mind have their own momentum. Heart disease, cancer, and even alcoholism have continued in the disposition of many deeply open men and women. Every kind of sexual style and twist can be found in the biographies of saints and spiritual teachers. Your openness can be real and profound, and still your bodymind ripples on, patterning itself according to past influence and present habit.

If your mother drank too much alcohol or was in a state of constant emotional stress during her pregnancy, then your nervous system is somewhat shaped by the chemicals that coursed through your embryonic growth, and there isn't much you can do about that now. As a consequence of your mother's actions, your body may be small, your mental acuity may be weak, and your emotional flow may be unstable. These are simply some of the patterns that you may feel and learn to open as, moment by moment.

If your father sexually molested you, then now as an adult you may react to your lover's advances with numbness. Your posture may be hunched and your pelvis locked. The patterning of your bodymind is what it is. You can change it to some degree, but you can always open as it is, even now. Open now, offering your heart's gift, and also do your best to live rightly through the present patterns of your past history.

Have you ever done something you wished you had done differently? If so, you can learn from your mistakes and try to do better next time. If the patterns of your bodymind cause undue suffering, in your life or in the lives of others, you can work to transform these patterns, heal them as much as possible, and grow more fully into a balanced, integrated, and healthy person.

But this growth is not the same as spiritual openness and depth. A balanced, healthy individual may serve to create positive changes in the world and yet be unwilling to open and feel fully. On the other hand, someone may be wide open and feeling all, yet appear to be a raving lunatic, lustful, and drug-addicted. Such a person may, in fact, be crazy, lustful, and drug-addicted--and yet be open so deeply their heart feels more than you can know and their love extends to you without bounds.

No matter how fully you open and live as love, your character is only slightly changeable. Your pre-birth influences are ingrained in your nervous system like rings in a tree. Childhood stresses still waltz in the chemistry of your brain and emotions. Even the evolutionary travails of your furry mammalian ancestors contribute to your so-called "spontaneous" desires for sex, food, and comfort.

You are birthed by, grown within, and taken apart by an immense and mysterious web of influence. The efforts you make to be healthy and helpful can be nullified by a falling rock caused by a sudden earth tremor or by a heart failure predisposed by the genetics of your father's mother's father. You may truly want to serve your 16-year-old daughter's friend, and yet you can't seem to shake the sexual desire you feel, or the guilt.

Integrity is well worth a lifetime of cultivation. Serving others is really the only way to live your heart's truth. But you are not cured thereby.

Your body may remain bent and your mind may remain twisted. Still, love can extend through your distortions, uniquely twisted yet unbound. Great gifts of openness, love, and awakening can be given--have been given--through arthritic fingers and alcohol-drenched brain cells.

Even as lust, greed, and anger continue to arise in your emotional patterns formed by years of mammalian struggle, parental abuse, and self-torture, you can practice opening without bounds. You can practice opening and giving your deepest gifts in every present moment, however awry your body and mind--and the world--remain.

Feel whatever love you can in this moment, however small. Even if you are woozily soused or ravenous with lust, find a kernel of openness deep in your heart. Feel the place in you that wants to give love and be fully received in love, no matter how messed up you are. Locate your desire for love, for openness, for freedom, even if it is tiny. In the midst of your drunken stupor or wild ire, reconnect with this speck of openness.

Breathe in and out of this tiny gist of love, while you open your senses and feel the people and place around you. Even if you can only open a little bit to breathe through your heart and feel the people and world around you, this is a little bit more open than staying closed.

Practice opening a tiny amount while your body and mind reel on, numb, confused, spinning. Breathe love in and out of the feeling-space of your heart. Breathe the force of love deep down into your abdomen, opening the closures in your gut by inhaling full and filling your belly round. Feel the heart of those around you, look into their eyes, open your senses to all the world's display, and offer your full-bellied love through your twists by degrees, in every moment you can remember to practice opening.

As slurred as your speaking may be, offer words of love. Through your shaking hands, offer openness through your service. Feel the hearts of those around you as they open or close in response to your gifts. As dim as your awareness may be fuddled, practice to feel the hearts around you and act to open them. Don't wait for perfection--or even to get straight--to offer your deepest love, full-bellied and open hearted.

Offer your gifts right now with the deepest integrity you can through whatever kinks may remain, always feeling and breathing the hearts of others as you act. Do your best to heal yourself and others, remembering that habits and history may budge very little. Nevertheless, this present moment comes and goes open, just as it is.

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Dating Several Women

2004-03-24T06:09:06Z

I've spent the majority of my adult life in monogomous long-term relationships. These days I'm doing a lot more dating, and I've been advised by some of my male friends (you know who you are) to make a point of dating more than one woman at a time.

I would like to hear opinions about the benefits and/or drawbacks of dating multiple women. Any thoughts?

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Way of the Warrior

2004-02-12T06:23:33Z

"Warriorship is a continual journey. To be a warrior is to learn to be genuine in every moment of your life."
- Chogyam Trungpa

Life presents us with a host of obstacles ranging from the extreme to the mundane. We are faced with limitations, both those imposed on us by the world and those we impose on ourselves through doubt and not knowing. The path through this world that leads to our higher selves is won through the three traditional virtues of a bodhisattva: strength, wisdom, and compassion.

Buddhist writings use the image of demons as a metaphor for our misconceptions, particularly the misconceptions that bind us to a narrow and limiting sense of our own capacity to love and to know. The sacred path of the warrior is to cut through these demons and leave none standing, till we are free in the limitless clearing unleashed by the unreserved luminosity of our own hearts and minds.

I hope that this tribe can be a meeting ground for men who are fighting this battle, who do war with the jailer who would confine us as children, selfish and small. Let us unleash our hearts.

In the 16th century the Fifth Dalai Lama wrote:

What must be done?
Tthe enemy of living for this life must die.

Who will do it?
You must pretend that you are warrior enough to be the one.

Now, then?
Surely the time has come. Go forth now and defeat them.

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